Relationships

It seems like every time I turn around lately Im hearing some great, lengthy, drawn out out explanation of women in relationships and what its like. More importantly what it SHOULD be like.  Its also usually followed by that person explaining to me what they desearve and why. Lets just be really super honest should we? I relationship is a choice.  Its a choice to be with an imperfect person who isn't going to do everything right. Its not some Elizabethan love affair where the man sweeps you off your feet and recites poetry.  Knowing someone, actually knowing someone, includes accepting them at not only their best most romantic but their worst. And lets just be honest and note whats happening in society shall we? Women want to be able to go out and screw the first guy they meet in a bar and not be judged for it, they want to be liberated and free from a mans help, they dont want doors help because they are 'feminists' and then 3 seconds later they are saying how they desearve some fictional guy out of a romance novel to sweep them off their feet. Mixed signals much?!
Ive been with my husband for 12 years.  They have been amazing and wonderful and i wouldnt change a thing. But he's seen me at some serious lows and vice versa. After we had our first child I dispised him and we didnt get along for maybe a year. But we didn't give up. We talked, like real talk. We changed for each other and for ourselves. We made serious compromises for each other and we are better for it. Relationships are hard and if you're not willing to humble yourself and compromise for the person you love you'll never make it.

I am not a victim

We live in a society full of victims and it nearly drives me crazy. We have the power to be in complete and total control of ourselves and yet, it seems, that every day everywhere people are letting others take that control away from them. Let me be more specific.  Never will I EVER give someone that I dont know the power to ruin my day. If someone says something off color to me, or mentions a point of view that I dont particularly agree with, it won't bother me in the least. Because 1 I am confidant enough in myself and my decisions that i dont happen to care to much about what other people think and 2 because I wont ever give someone that kind of control over me. A bartender recently told me that a patron told her she 'completly ruined her day' because the bartender got her food order wrong. Have some humility and realize that we're all human but even more, realize how much control you are giving up when you become the 'victim ' of someone elses mistake. I am not a victim and will not act as one. The only person who controls my emotions and my actions or re actions is me.